This is a book that I came across and read. Growing up I never went through the developmental stages of dating or being in a relationship. I was naive when I got married. This book really gave me an example of communication skills in a relationship or marriage. I did not have these skills when I was married. I am not naive any more in this area. – Greg
By Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships
Narcissists are antagonistic and selfish and can be abusive. Dealing with a narcissist is challenging. Whether the relationship is with a parent, sibling, or lover, love may feel out of reach. Do you feel emotionally abandoned or abused, vacillate between hope and pain, love and resentment, and staying or cutting off contact?
Living together breeds hurt, resentment, and anxiety as you grow accustomed to self-sacrifice and emotional abuse, or even physical abuse. Loving someone who is unable to show love or who alternates between care and abuse is confusing and heart-wrenching. It’s also addictive.
Narcissists are antagonistic, selfish, and highly defensive. Loved ones often feel hurt and frustrated by the disregard for their feelings and needs. Many feel betrayed by the loving person they once knew who disappeared over time.