In 2005 I was diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder, consistent with Asperger’s Syndrome, Non Verbal Disorder. After this diagnosis I felt I finally had an answer to many years of disappointments and frustration. My family was finally relieved that we finally had an answer. Follow my journey. [read more]
A better understanding of neurodiversity is leading to growing numbers of people over 50 being diagnosed on the autism spectrum. Roughly a million seniors could be living with autism, many of them undiagnosed, if CDC estimates are correct and adults are affected at a rate of 2.21%.
More conservative calculations suggest there are tens of thousands of older adults in the U.S. who are undiagnosed.
The standard narrative positions autism as the cause of relationship trouble when a non-autistic person dates or falls in love with an autistic person. The autistic partner is assumed to be the disruptive or difficult one. Self-help books offer non-autistic partners tips on how to cope with their autistic partner’s neurodivergent traits and behaviors. This paradigm is rarely questioned. Even many autistic people assume their autism-related features are a serious barrier to relationship success. This is simply not true. My three serious, long-term relationships of many years all ended in total failure – but ultimately, discrimination and ableism is to blame – not autism.