New estimate suggests most autistic adults in England lack a formal diagnosis

BY EMMET FRAIZER  

I can relate. I got my diagnosis at the age of 49. – Greg

Anywhere from 435,700 to nearly 1.2 million people in England may be autistic but undiagnosed, according to a study of primary-care records — an estimate that includes more than 9 in 10 autistic people aged 50 and older.

Living for so long without a diagnosis can have consequences — especially for mental health, says lead investigator William Mandy, professor of neurodevelopmental conditions at University College London in England. “If you don’t have the label,” he says, “you’re less likely to get the adaptations and the support that you might need.” read more

Mental Health & Relationships: Dealing with an Abuser or Narcissist

By Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships

Narcissists are antagonistic and selfish and can be abusive. Dealing with a narcissist is challenging.  Whether the relationship is with a parent, sibling, or lover, love may feel out of reach. Do you feel emotionally abandoned or abused, vacillate between hope and pain, love and resentment, and staying or cutting off contact?

Living together breeds hurt, resentment, and anxiety as you grow accustomed to self-sacrifice and emotional abuse, or even physical abuse. Loving someone who is unable to show love or who alternates between care and abuse is confusing and heart-wrenching. It’s also addictive.

Narcissists are antagonistic, selfish, and highly defensive. Loved ones often feel hurt and frustrated by the disregard for their feelings and needs. Many feel betrayed by the loving person they once knew who disappeared over time.
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