Note: the following is a collection of perspectives from different people with ADHD. The * indicates another person’s input.
This article was of interest to me because I did have people tell me over the years that I did not have good social skills. I at times struggle with small talk. – Greg
Social Interactions & ADHD: Why We Get Bored
*Small talk can be profoundly boring. The older you get, the more this is true. Truly, it is hard to find people who “match” in terms of what they find stimulating.
*Yesterday I talked with a friend who also has ADHD about how typical conversations go. One person says his whole monologue and then the other person says her whole monologue. The monologue-ing gets so boring it is hard for us to stay engaged.
We prefer conversations where people interrupt with interesting tidbits as this makes the conversation more engaging and exciting. Our preferred way of communicating is perfectly acceptable although there are settings where we need to reel in our enthusiasms and engage in more socially acceptable ways
*The more I work on conversation skills, the more I find the “take turns to dump” style grating, It’s hard to follow the conversation and contribute anything meaningful. My brain wanders off when I try to sit and wait my turn! read more
