Brenda Dater, MSW, MPH

By Brenda Dater, MSW, MPH.

Brenda Dater is the executive director at AANE and the author of “Parenting Without Panic.” Brenda is a mom of three, and her eldest is an Autistic woman. Brenda has facilitated parent support groups for over 20 years and thoroughly enjoys creating an environment where parents can find the support, information, and the community they need.

We at the Association for Autism and Neurodiversity (AANE), along with the larger autism advocacy movement, have worked for decades to advance understanding of autism, create inclusive and supportive communities, and dispel disinformation. As Autistic individuals, families, and clinicians, we recognize and honor the inherent worth and diverse experiences of Autistic people and their families. We also know the real barriers our community faces as they navigate the world. 

In their most recent press conference, the President and his administration continued to spread disinformation that highlights questionable research and misinforms the public about autism. The HHS Secretary and the President repeatedly frame autism as an “epidemic” despite well-established research showing that rising prevalence rates reflect broader diagnostic criteria, greater awareness, and improved screening. In particular, claims about acetaminophen use in pregnancy as a cause of autism are deeply misleading. A massive Swedish study found no evidence that acetaminophen causes autism, directly contradicting the administration’s statements. Medical experts at the Coalition of Autism Scientists have issued a statement pushing back on each one of the claims made, saying the assertions, “only stoke fear.” 

The real crisis occurs when Autistic individuals and their families are left without the understanding, services, and support they need. Among many examples, recent cuts to Medicaid funding and weakening the Department of Educationhave removed supports and protections that will have a dramatically negative effect on the autism community. 

Our collective focus must be on ensuring robust funding, resources, and inclusive supports that the Autistic community relies on to live meaningful and connected lives. We know the autism community is strongest when the experiences of both Autistic individuals and their families are recognized. Autistic individuals bring essential insight into shaping policies and practices, while parents and caregivers play a vital role in support and advocacy alongside them. We urge leaders and the media to elevate these experiences and move away from divisive rhetoric, so that together we can focus on what truly matters: understanding, respect, and meaningful support for every Autistic person and their family.

Indoor Activities for Children with Autism: Where Fun Meets Focus

By Justin Bennett

Being indoors doesn’t mean the world has to shrink. For parents raising children with autism, the home can become a dynamic space, one where curiosity, connection, and calm collide. Structured creativity and predictable flexibility often work best, but that doesn’t mean the activities have to be boring. Below are seven vivid ways to transform ordinary moments into something richer: rhythmic, relational, and real.

Sensory Sensations

Sometimes, a few scoops of rice and a plastic bin unlock something bigger than play. For many autistic children, tactile activities are more than just amusing, they regulate and reconnect. You can start simple: a shallow tub, dry pasta, small scoops, toy animals buried beneath. The key is repetition paired with variation. One day it’s a mini-construction site with diggers. The next, it’s an arctic rescue mission in chilled water beads. What you’re really offering isn’t distraction, it’s engaging sensory bin play that balances stimulation with predictability. These setups offer control over intensity and pace, letting your child be the architect of their own calm.

Creative STEM Learning

Not every science lesson starts with goggles and baking soda. Sometimes, it’s just lining up dominoes to explore cause and effect, or testing how tall magnetic tiles can go before they fall. What matters most is doing it beside your child—not to teach, but to think together. For children with autism, structured STEM setups that encourage joint attention can create powerful pockets of connection. It doesn’t have to be elaborate: a build-it-yourself marble run, a LEGO bridge designed in pairs. In those moments, the project becomes the playground.

Active Obstacle Course

Energy doesn’t vanish just because it’s raining, or because the world feels like too much. Movement still calls. Indoors, a zig-zag of painter’s tape across the floor, a path of cushions, chairs turned into tunnels, this becomes a quest. But it’s not just about burning off energy. It’s about sequencing, planning, sensing space. Done right, a home obstacle course becomes a quiet blueprint for self-regulation, one that builds mastery without tipping into overload. Novelty, yes. But repetition is what makes it stick.

Calm‑Down Cozy Space

There are moments when the world is simply too loud. In those times, your child doesn’t need redirection, they need refuge. That’s where a personal retreat space can make all the difference. It might be a small tent draped with string lights, filled with pillows and calming textures, tucked into a quiet corner of the living room. Some parents add noise-canceling headphones, weighted lap pads, or soft visuals like lava lamps. But it doesn’t have to be a sensory showroom. At its heart, this space is a pause button. You can even offer a soothing sensory tent retreat to help your child regulate without isolation. It’s a reset zone, not a timeout.

Storytelling and Reading

Books can become bridges, especially when stories reflect your child’s world. Reading together isn’t about checking a box; it’s a shared gaze, a common rhythm. For children with autism, stories that incorporate routines, feelings, and social cues often hit differently. You can build your own visual narratives about getting a haircut or visiting Grandma, or adapt existing tales with real photos and personalized touches. Using interactive social story reading as a launchpad, parents can open conversations that otherwise stall. Ask questions, point to faces, mimic emotions. The goal isn’t literacy, it’s legibility: of emotions, expectations, and self.

A Take on Graphic Design

Here’s a twist on screen time that doesn’t feel like a compromise. Invite your child to imagine their superhero alias, family-run pizza shop, or custom cat café, and then turn it into a visual identity. Using a free logo generator online, kids can explore colors, fonts, icons, and layouts to bring that vision to life. They can choose templates, tweak graphics, and proudly download their final creation. Along the way, they’re learning visual reasoning, language for design, and the art of shaping an idea into something others can see. It’s project-based learning with a purpose.

Interactive Parent‑Child Game

You don’t need a board game collection or a therapy degree to spark something meaningful between you. Even simple games like “Guess What I’m Drawing,” “I Spy—But with Sounds,” or cooperative tower building can introduce crucial moments of turn-taking, shared attention, and repair after missteps. These games teach flexibility, sequencing, and resilience in the face of mistakes—and best of all, they’re fun. Through play‑based learning through games, the parent becomes a trusted co-player, not a therapist in disguise. That distinction matters more than we often admit.

The magic isn’t in the activity itself. It’s in the tone you set, the flexibility you allow, and the rhythm you find together. Indoor time doesn’t have to feel limited or clinical. With a mix of sensory, structured, and story-based experiences, you’re not just passing the time, you’re building skills, deepening connection, and reinforcing the idea that your home is a place of possibility. It’s not about doing more. It’s about doing what fits; intentionally, patiently, playfully. And on the days when everything goes sideways? Let that be a lesson too: that rest, recovery, and repair belong in the plan just as much as play.