I have not written anything for the website in a while. For the past 4 years I have been making an attempt at online dating to learn about different types of people. I found that most of the ladies lack some degree of functioning or lived with their kids for some reason or another. I am not against a person having kids but I do feel some degree of independence is needed. I met a lady last week and one of her comments, one I have gotten over the years, is the perception that I am stuck in my ways because I have been single most of my life. This is an example of how neurotypical people (in this case a female) mislabel people on the spectrum based on their ignorance of the characteristics of individuals who are neurodivergent. They look at my difficulty with change as being stuck in my ways. This is no different than when I had a manager tell me years ago I lacked social skills. Some people get attached to certain beliefs, ways of thinking, for example: stuck in their ways. Not a very common aspect of finding myself on the spectrum.
I am finding at times I really want no part of the dating world because I work hard to function when most women I am meeting do not seem to have their basic things in order. Like my boss used to say, “it runs by accident.” – Greg