A Wife’s Letter to Her Husband with Asperger’s

This is a great article.  I wish my ex wife had the dedication of working with me instead of taking advantage of me. – Greg

My T.D.,

I love you. You are unlike anybody I’ve ever met. I want to continue to be a part of your life, and I want you to continue to be a part of mine. I do not want our marriage to end. I want us to raise our children together and be a family. Most of all, I want us to love each other. Just like the song that played at our wedding, “When I said I do, I meant that I will, ‘til the end of all time…”. But then day to day life played out and we had one disconnect after another. And as more major life events happened, we experienced more and more frustration with each other. I became annoyed when you did not do things for me that I assumed all good husbands do for their wives, like give control of decorating the house over to me, offer me massages, give me gifts on special occasions, or do anything romantic.

Motor difficulties in autism, explained

BY LAUREN SCHENKMAN

Most of my life from a early age I had problems with my hand righting and often got my hands slapped in school with a ruler.   Followed me all my life.   My eye hand coordination was always off and one of the reasons I stayed away from sports.  I also had anxiety for getting feedback from my parents about my walking .  On one of my jobs I was criticized for the way I walked.  In the employers mind I showed no sense of urgency.     Yet I did get things done.   – Greg

Most autistic people — 87 percent, according to the latest estimate — have some sort of motor difficulty, ranging from an atypical gait to problems with handwriting1. These issues are distinct from the repetitive behaviors considered to be a hallmark of autism. And yet, despite their prevalence, motor problems are not considered a core trait of autism, because they also occur with other conditions, such as Down syndrome, cerebral palsy and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

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How autism shapes sibling relationships

Having an autistic brother or sister can pose challenges, but it can also make children patient, empathetic and resilient.
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I know my challenges at times effect how the family reacts to me. Good article. – Greg

In late March, Michelle Byamugisha reached out to a local celebrity in an email with the subject line “A Message for Your Biggest Fan, My Autistic Brother.” It was two weeks into the coronavirus-related lockdown, and her 34-year-old brother, who has significant speech challenges and likes to be called Mark B, was distraught. Deprived of his cooking class, bowling and other favorite activities, he was feeling so low he could barely get out of bed.

As the family discussed what to do, Byamugisha had an idea. Her brother is fascinated by weather and has for years tuned in every evening to broadcasts from meteorologist Steve Rudin of WJLA in Washington, D.C. What if Mark B heard from Rudin directly? That might jolt him out of the doldrums, Byamugisha reasoned. read more